… is probably one of the hardest concepts to understand concerning marriage, but hands down the most thrilling and rewarding.
Like most people out there, I know, I am not perfect. I make mistakes, some that could have had a detrimental impact on not just my marriage to my wife, but to my soul and spirituality. I had the problem that most guys deal with, pride and a emotionally stunted heart. Sure, I have always considered myself a nice enough guy, but emotionally for a really long time, I was emotionally devoid of, well, a heart. I guess you could have called me the Tin Man! Unlike the Tin Man however, I was not looking for the Yellow Brick road nor was I looking for my Dorothy to help me get to the man that would fix me up! The thing about complacency and depression and being stuck in darkness for a really long time, you get used to it. Ever try to open your eyes in the sunlight after being in a dark room for an extended time? Well guess what, it hurts!
Being the Tin Man that I was, I had a brain, I could deduct with enough reasoning that I had to make a decision. I needed help, I needed my wife and I need my God! But as with anything worth getting, there is a journey and along that journey there are going to be people you are going to meet whose only purpose is to attempt to distract you from your goal and deter your resolve.
But looking back on what I have gone through over my journey, as a man of God with a heart for Him, and the things of God, no weapon formed against you will prosper! I have had some weapons aimed at me, they even clicked at me but no boom. Not because of anything that I had done in my life, no. Because I made the decision that:
1, I love God! All of the Hell I went through in my life didn’t kill me. If nothing else, through my trials I found strength that He gave me and the love that He gave me from the start!
2. I love my wife! She walked my path not for me or behind me, but beside me!
3. I love the new me! I have seen so much maturity in my life, even through my mistakes and the lessons I have learned and I can’t wait to pass them on to our children.
It wasn’t until I decided by the words of my mouth, that I love God and I want to fall in line with His will, not my own, that I found what the Tin Man was looking for. The heart that God intended for him to have the whole time. And then 3 became 1…
I love you all and be blessed!